New Job

Well, I’m sitting at 13DPO waiting for AF to arrive (usually 14DPO), though curiously, I have zero signs of either my period, or anything else… Did I calculate my O wrong? Are ZERO signs a good sign?? I’ll share the other news in my life. As the title of the post gave away, I got a new job. I am VERY happy to be leaving my current job. Suffice it to say, the man I have been working with is a TERRIBLE communicator who uses bullying and slammed drawers to try to get his way (both in his professional and personal life). I don’t respond well to those actions, and I’ve refused to be his victim, so he and I have never gotten along. I’ve debated whether to talk about my professional life on here, but I figure, what the heck. I’m an attorney, and so is this guy. If you know any jokes about sleazy lawyers, they are describing this guy. He’s disgusting.

Aside from leaving the hostile work environment, I’m VERY excited to start my new job. It will be a huge change in several ways. First, it’s 22 miles from home. Currently, I ride my bike 3 miles to work. Now I will need to figure out the best way to get to my new job. I REALLY don’t want to drive every day – sitting on a freeway in a car sounds terrible to me. The bus is an option – it picks up 3 miles from my house and then takes 40 minutes. That sounds like a lot, but I can get things done on the bus. Finally, I’m weighing how insane it would be to bike one way to work and ride the bus home. It would probably take 90 minutes to get to work, but at least my workout would be done! The other big change will be the corporate structure. I’ve worked at medium-sized firms and agencies, but this one is very large. That brings perks like gym and cafeteria. I’m sure it brings bad things too. We’ll see.

My poor wife has listened to me gripe about my job for the last year, so she was potentially more excited than I was when I got my new job offer. She’s incredibly supportive, and because I’ll be away from home as much as 2 extra hours every day, we’re shifting to using a house cleaner and fluff-and-fold service. We’re also considering AmazonFresh. Anyone use it? Grocery delivery for $25/month? I think it will be worth it if the produce is good quality. If we go for it, I’ll let you know.

Well, cross your fingers for me that AF doesn’t show up and my calculations were right! As I’ve said before, I don’t like to test, but if nothing happens by this weekend, I guess I will. In the meantime, here are a few recent photos:

Water Run

My wife at a recent triathlon – she is second from the front looking tall and strong!

Dogs

Look at those adorable faces, waiting for mama to finish her triathlon.

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TMI warning re: urine

You could say that my journey reached an all-time low today (CD13, btw), literally, not figuratively. It all started when I woke up to feed our fourteen year-old dog at 6:00. Being so elderly (her, not me), if she wakes up and doesn’t eat right away, she vomits bile. It’s not a big issue, but I have learned to hear her pacing in my sleep and leap out of bed and dart to the kitchen without fully waking up in order to avoid cleaning vomit off the floor. I heard her pacing at 6:00 this morning and I begrudgingly rolled out from the covers to fill her bowl. In my half-sleep fog, I then stumbled into the bathroom to pee. About 5 seconds into the stream, I realized that I’m in the phase when I need to pee on the OPK every morning to catch the smile. So, I pinched, stood up, grabbed the white canister of cheapie sticks, the little plastic cup, a new CBE purple stick, and the CBE tester out of the cabinet. I use both methods, because I think that together they allow me to better predict ovulation. Or, I’m a sucker for buying things that are SUPPOSED to help me predict it.

I managed to hold it in (the pee) midstream while I tore open the CBE test stick with one hand and my teeth. Then I caught a sample, midstream in the cup, and finished with the CBE, barely getting the last few drops. As I turned to throw away the wrapper in the wastebasket, of course the little plastic cup slid off my knee onto the floor, splashing pee onto the wall. I knew my tank was empty, and the CBE had enough for a reading, but I don’t give up easily. So, I wiped, pulled up my skivvies, and crouched down onto the floor to hold the little cheapie test strip in the tiny puddle that collected where the floor met the wall. I kind of wish my wife would have walked in on me then. She already thinks I over-monitor, but I can only imagine what she would have thought of me crouching on the floor in (only) my underwear next to the toilet.

Well, the CBE gave me a flashing smile, which I tried not to view as it laughing at me, and the floor-stick gave me a positive. At that point I realized there was a wee bit of wee left in the spilled cup, so I used another cheapie to test it. Curiously, it did not quite get as dark as the test line (negative). How did the two sticks came up with different results? I have no idea. Maybe there is LH in our floor cleaner.

I don’t think anyone ever claimed TTC was dignified.

Delayed gratification

I find strength and hope in stories of folks who tried for longer than average (6 months, 12 months, 18?) and eventually had success without major interventions. It helps me believe the concept that it just takes the exact right conditions for everything to work. When I get discouraged, it’s easy to follow the line of thinking that SOMETHING MUST BE TERRIBLY WRONG! I know it’s illogical, irrational, and unproductive, but it’s a slippery slope. I’ve read that 9 months is an average time to try before success. Yet, I come across many “one hit wonders” who, I guess, are just incredibly lucky. I can attest that some of them are not particularly healthy in regards to diet, exercise, drinking, etc., so it’s not such a simple equation of healthy body = high fertility.

So, while I love hearing the amazing stories of short-term success, and I’m delighted when people achieve success through IUI, IVF, medicated cycles, etc., I love to come across candid, transparent stories of people who tried for a year or so until they succeeded. Send me those if you come across them!!

Delayed gratification

I find strength and hope in stories of folks who tried for longer than average (6 months, 12 months, 18?) and eventually had success without major interventions. It helps me believe the concept that it just takes the exact right conditions for everything to work. When I get discouraged, it’s easy to follow the line of thinking that SOMETHING MUST BE TERRIBLY WRONG! I know it’s illogical, irrational, and unproductive, but it’s a slippery slope. I’ve read that 9 months is an average time to try before success. Yet, I come across many “one hit wonders” who, I guess, are just incredibly lucky. I can attest that some of them are not particularly healthy in regards to diet, exercise, drinking, etc., so it’s not such a simple equation of healthy body = high fertility.

So, while I love hearing the amazing stories of short-term success, and I’m delighted when people achieve success through IUI, IVF, medicated cycles, etc., I love to come across candid, transparent stories of people who tried for a year or so until they succeeded. Send me those if you come across them!!