Colorado doctors are apparently not so interested in using sperm that has not been quarantined for six months. We hoped that one of several clinics we contacted would work with us, but no such luck. That leaves us relying on our rogue fertility specialist in LA who is willing to actually follow FDA guidelines and not insist on additional arbitrary restrictions on known donor arrangements. For those not keeping up with federal law, anonymous sperm needs to be frozen for six months with the donor tested at the end of six months to ensure no STI’s or other issues. Known donors need only be tested within 7 days of the donation. We have grudgingly discovered that nearly every clinic in SoCal and Colorado has decided to enforce the six month quarantine, even though it’s not required. Or even encouraged. Even more infuriating, many clinics recognize and acknowledge that they aren’t required to quarantine, but won’t consider a waiver or changing their policy.
This leaves us in a funny position of either waiting 5 more months (boo) or attempting to time an insemination when I can be in LA. Ideally my wife would be there too, but that adds an interesting wrinkle. I have insisted that she really doesn’t need to come and that the iui will likely be as dull as a dentist appointment. She is adamant that we at least try to fly her out when the smiley turns solid. Of course I would LIKE her to be there, but it seems silly to me to buy plane tickets when we don’t really know when I will ovulate.
For those of you who have used an iui, is it worth it to wait or buy last-minute tickets for her to be there? Will she miss anything magical? Is it more or less exciting or painful than a dentist appointment? Would you consider missing your partner’s iui if you had to work or were in another state? What do you suggest we do?