“You have a beautiful uterus”

Said the 60-something male RE as he maneuvered his ultra sound wand up my vajay. I stuttered, “thank you, I think” in response, which made his nurse laugh.

Yesterday I had my consult in LA, and the doctor asked about a dozen questions about my history and general health. I told him about our at-home ICI’s using fresh donations over the past year. He was unconcerned and stated he though that it was insignificant. I estimated that about 3 of them were timed pretty well, and the other 3-4 could have been close. In his office he let me know that we could not try this cycle, because I’m on cd 13. I responded that I expected that and we hoped to try next cycle. Once we were in the ultra sound room, he looked at my follicles and changed his mind to say we could definitely try this cycle, if we wanted. He counted about 10 follicles on each side and estimated there was a 10-12mm on each side. Are they really mm? I’m going to have to look that up. It sounds huge. He thinks I will ovulate this weekend. After much discussion, the wife and I have decided to wait until next cycle, because this cycle would require some travel plan changes that we just don’t really want to deal with.

The other good news we got was that our donor’s “efforts” resulted in 14 vials from his 6 donations. I guess his volume was good, or maybe density. I don’t know how they decide how many vials to divide each donation into. That number confirmed for us that using the known donor and clinic was far more cost effective than ordering 14 vials of Open ID sperm and paying shipping and storage. We are optimistic that 14 could get us through at least two siblings, but we will reassess that when the time comes.

I was happy to hear he thought things looked good in there. And he was very happy about the size and number of follicles. Hopefully that bodes well for the future. He was completely disinterested in either an ovulation stimulant like clomid or an hcg trigger. He said your body knows best when the egg is ready. He also said an HSG was useless at this point since I have never had an irregular pap, infection, or surgery. I have mixed feelings about that, but I’m trying to trust him. They did the mandatory blood testing, so I should have those results in the next few days. I’ve already had most of them done, so I don’t expect anything too interesting. He also had me buy some super expensive OPKs. OvuQuick? Anybody use those? I don’t understand the point, but I’m trying to follow instructions (behavior that does not come easily to me).

My wife was sorry not to be there (she is in DC for a conference), but we are going to see if she can’t come to at least the first IUI next month. It will depend on work and flights. Since she couldn’t be there, I live-texted most of the appointment, describing the many people that came through the waiting room. I’ll tell you what, that place is BUMPING. I couldn’t believe the number of patients and nurses running around. I’m trying to take that as a sign that they have a good reputation and are successful in the task of making babies. I took of photo of one section the waiting area with my phone to amuse my wife, below. I felt creepy, and I had to wait until just the right moment to make sure nobody was in the photo. For your reference, this is the opposite of our taste in design 😜. Not sure what I expect a fertility clinic waiting room to look like, but I didn’t expect it to be so much like a high end bridal shop dressing room! It cracked me up.




Last Christmas season, one of the things that troubled me the most about Southern California was the lack of snow. It’s hard for me to feel festive looking at Christmas lights on palm trees. I know a lot of people would forego the snow forever to enjoy sandy beaches year round. I’m not one of them. It was such a treat to get to cross country ski two weeks ago when Boulder and the nearby mountains got a bit of snow. We randomly chose a spot near Nederland and were lucky enough that much of the trail had already been broken. We layered clothes and prepared for our first trek in two years. Being out of practice, we forgot to pack a couple of cans of beer for our midway break. Next time. About five minutes into our glide, the wind was really battering us. I was leading, and I felt disappointed that the wind might be the cause for a short, quick trip. I nervously turned around to see how miserable Natalie looked, fearing that her beach-loving, sun-soaking spirit would be cowering from the whipping gusts that were pummeling us head-on. As I turned around, I saw her grinning like a goon, sliding gracefully along the snow. Turns out she likes cross country skiing more than she hates being cold. I high-fived myself. We ended up skiing for about two and a half hours. Not sure how many miles we covered, but we both noticed how much quicker we travelled when we didn’t have beers to sip while on breaks. Weird. The trip was a treat. I think we’ll try to go again this Saturday, depending on how awesome I feel after driving from SD to CO on Thursday/Friday. We have one last load of things that I kept in California with me that we don’t need here anymore. We looked into shipping, flights, etc. and this makes the most sense, as insane as it may be.

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One last exciting note is that I will have my consultation/physical with the LA RE on Monday. I’m hoping I leave the appointment feeling optimistic and like we are making progress. I’m tired of feeling like we are in limbo, both in life and baby making.

A belated happy new year to the blogosphere! I hope this year brings healthy births to those that are preggo, and positive tests to those who are not yet!

p.s. Blogging from an iPad is miserable, no?