That is the fictitious name we gave potential donor #3. This is the first donor we have considered whose name we don’t actually know. The first two were known to us, having met for the express purpose of arranging donation. The first donor was a quiet slightly heavy, but overall healthy fellow who was approaching 35, if I remember correctly. We tried using his sperm at home 6 or 7 times. Never had any luck. The second donor was a tall, adventurous entertainment exec of about 26. He very generously donated at the clinic in LA to stock up vials for future use. We got to try one IUI with his swimmers, which obviously didn’t take. The rest of the crop are stuck in LA, though we are still researching options to circumvent the RE’s office and have them sent directly to us.
Given the latest hurdles, we decided it would be best to prepare for the possibility that the frozen batch may never make it out of California. We started researching banks and donors, making the infamous spreadsheet showing costs, family limits, availability of photos, etc. My favorite clinic (because they will ship directly to the recipient without doctor’s approval) is in the northwest. However, their supplies are low, and it seems that most donors won’t be available for 2-5 months. Our second choice clinic brought us to donor #3. If we have to go this route, we have chosen him to be the “open identity” donor. We named him “Luke”, because that is what his baby pictures look like to us, and “Potter” because he is of British descent and loves the Harry Potter series. From what we can tell, he is smart, funny, has good values, and was a cute baby/little kid. Of course we have glamorized him in our minds, and are picturing someone with the facial features of a model and the brains of a mensa member.
Is it weird to name a donor? We wanted something to call him, other than “the donor” so it seemed appropriate. I guess it may not be any more strange than naming an unborn child. And really, who wants to say “oh! the fetus just kicked.” Obviously, it will be a surprise when we one day learn his real name, but for now, we will call him Luke Potter and believe all good things about him. We will NOT likely tell any future kids about his fake name in order to avoid confusion, at least until they are old enough to understand.
So, we press forward with Luke Potter and wait for the next cycle to begin…